Be Thankful for the L’s ( Life, Love, loss)
As we come to the end of 2020, we have faced many challenges, obstacles, setbacks, and life tragedies. This year, I started 2020 with several plans and goals. I wanted to conquer each goal personally, financially, physically, and mentally. However, with COVID-19 on the rise, my plans took a major shift. The world we once knew prior to March 2020 no longer existed. We were locked in our homes, locked out of our businesses, and on a total lockdown from working out with family and friends.
My life has been affected tremendously by this pandemic: my mom passed, 2 uncles passed, and my business dissolved all in a matter of 5 months. I have been faced with a roller coaster of emotions. Some days I can smile through my pain, while other days I am a complete wreck. Depressed and angry, I am still trying to balance life without my mother while maintaining my daily activities. The past few months I have wanted to quit, and I have cried more than I ever have in life. I must admit losing a parent is hard. I honestly do not think it is something you can ever prepare for. I know deep down inside my mom would not want me to quit so I press on daily to conquer my goals despite how I feel.
In life, you will experience wins and losses. However, sometimes we must go through the storm to win the race. In March when the pandemic first hit, our gym was forced to closed. I was devasted because if you know me, you know that the gym is a huge part of my healing journey. I was determined not to give up. I knew that I had to come up with a plan of action if I was going to be able to cope with life. While my mom was alive, I could never get my mom to come to the gym. However, she would frequent come to the park to walk with my nieces and nephews while my sister, our teammates, and I would run and workout. Other times she would just sit and watch me come up with workouts to keep my family and team together. She would even come to the school building that I basically turned into a gym since our gym at Effect Fitness was closed due to Covid-19. When I turned the school into a mini gym, I would literally workout all day. I would train my nieces and nephews, my sister, my brother, and my dad. I was determined to keep us healthy during this pandemic. I grew a love for seeing their lives change and desired to see others around us change as well. I started training some close friends and parents and their transformations sparked a passion in me to train the masses. We do not know why God allows certain events to happen, but what I do know is that his plans for my life is awesome. When one door or opportunity closes, God has a way of altering the plans to always work for my good. So, do not reject your L’s they can be the very thing that birth your purpose.
Even though the pain of my L’s has been life altering, I am so thankful that my mom got a chance to see me walk in my purpose, fulfill my dreams, and find the other part of my calling.
I urge you not to loose sight of your purpose when you experience your L’s, instead, explore the unlimited possibilities that lives inside of all of you. Let me ask you a question, what keeps you motivated during hardships? Let’s think about a major goal you have wanted to reach or a lifetime dream you have want to accomplish. Hard times should motivate you to press towards the mark even when you feel like you want to give up. Remember your WHY. Why you started… why you fell in love with your passion… Why you should never quit.
The biggest lesson I have learned is, God’s timing is perfect. Be patient. Look at the process not the problems. Keep an open mind and heart, and God will always surround you with the right people at the right time.
God intention is for us to never walk alone so stay connect to those who love you. this journey has been so much easier because of my family, trainer, teammates, clients, and friends. They have encouraged and pushed me to keep going even on my bad days.
Love bears all things
Believes all things.
Hopes all things.
Endures all things
1 cor. 13:7
